- Regardless of how or where this discussion takes place, the
primary role for the professors/staff is to play is a guide or
facilitator. Students need to understand several things about
a “calling” which we can help them see:
- There is no one thing to which we are called for a lifetime,
except to serve God.
- “Calling” is a God-given purpose to use one’s
time, energy, and abilities to serve God in the world.
- Understanding calling is a process – it takes time,
patience, reflection, introspection, and often the help of
others.
- Calling is NOT the same thing as a career or a major. Calling
transcends both of these.
- A person may fulfill his/her calling in a career, but may
not. One’s calling may be outside of his/her career.
- A calling involves work that can send us in directions where
traditional careers do not go.
- Most of us have multiple callings. Calling is plural, most
of the time.
- The primary task is not to help students discover their calling,
but to help them understand that they have a calling, what that
means, and how to discover it within themselves. Some points to
keep in mind:
- A calling contributes to God’s work in the world. People
with a calling have a sense of higher purpose and see the
bigger picture.
- A calling inspires people to consider human needs, moral
standards, and a larger perspective than income, power, or
position.
- God defines the person and gives that person a calling.
To use an analogy, a calling is like a seed that God has planted
within a person at birth—a unique combination of strengths
and talents that is nurtured and grows to become a flower
that serves and glorifies God. The whole point of a calling
is simply understanding who you are and how you can best serve
God with your talents.
- A calling is a way of seeing the world with the eyes of
the heart. How we see the world around us points the way to
our calling.
- Buechner says that our calling discovers us. This often
involves embarking on a journey. The experiences we have along
the road of life have a cumulative effect, preparing us for
future service. “Our calling is inseparable from the
journey. In one sense, it is the journey” (Sittser, 2000).
- “We discover our calling, not by trying to plan our
life out ten years in advance, but by being attentive to what
God is doing through immediate circumstances and in the present
moment. Over time our sense of calling unfolds simply and
naturally, as scenery unfolds to backpackers hiking their
way through the mountains. Rarely will we be able to see the
whole pathway stretched out before us at any one time. Sometimes
we will only be able to see far enough ahead to keep going.”
(Sittser, 2000)
- The advising relationship is one of the primary mechanisms for
this discussion with students. Some tips:
- Emphasize to students that most of the time it does not
matter what they major in (exception: Education). They will
change careers multiple times in life, and many careers they
may have later have not been invented yet! A broad preparation
in the liberal arts is their best option.
- Talk to students about their strengths. Strengths often
provide clues to how God is using this student already. Help
them understand that knowing who they
are is the biggest step toward fulfilling their calling.
- Questions to ask:
- Tell me about a highlight of your life – something
you did very well and felt good about. [As students tell
you this story, listen for strengths, themes, patterns.]
- How do you see God acting in your life right now?
- What have you always dreamed of doing?
- What is most satisfying to you about your life right
now?
- What do you really enjoy doing?
- What subjects did you like most and do best in while
you were in high school?
- Tell me about classes you’ve had at Eastern that
have really sparked your curiosity—you looked forward
to going to class, you learned a lot, you found yourself
doing extra reading because the subject was so interesting,
etc.
- What are you passionate about?
- Gerald Sittser, author of The Will of
God as a Way of Life, emphasizes that discovering calling
is an intuitive process that defies simple steps and easy formulas.
But he also points out that “we need to be attentive to the
signs, which provide hints and impressions and give us a sense
of direction.” He outlines six signs to look for in the process
of discovering calling.
- Motivation. Look within yourself to see what motivates you.
Know yourself—what captures your interest, what gives
you energy.
- Talent. Look for your talents. Good intentions are not enough—you
must have the gifts to get the job done.
- Life Experiences. Sometimes what happens to us in life pushes
us toward a calling. Sometimes the propelling event can be
an insignificant experience that happens at just the right
time. Sometimes it can be a trauma that changes your life.
- Open and closed doors. Opportunities and circumstances can
lead us to our calling, but so can closed doors. Parker Palmer
argues that a calling also implies limits. In choosing to
pursue one calling, we eliminate other possible callings.
We must therefore discern what we are not supposed to do,
as well as what we are to do.
- The Voice of People. Participation in community life can
help us discover calling. Rarely does a person discover a
calling in isolation from a community. “Only our friends
know us well enough to size up our gifts, to listen to our
dreams, to challenge our thinking, and to encourage or discourage
our plans” (Sittser, 2000). Mentors can help this process
as well.
- Joyful Service. “We will know our calling not only
if we feel driven to it but also if we find joy in it.”
We may not always be happy doing our work, but we should not
be miserable. God does not call us to that which makes us
miserable and is least fulfilling for us!
Source: Sittser, Gerald. (2000). God’s
will as a way of life. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
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